Comments for Lonely Boy / sons without fathers http://sonswithoutfathers.wordpress.com Just another WordPress.com weblog Tue, 20 Oct 2009 23:08:33 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on What is Lonely Boy? by Christopher J. Chenet http://sonswithoutfathers.wordpress.com/2008/06/09/what-is-lonely-boy/#comment-31 Christopher J. Chenet Tue, 20 Oct 2009 23:08:33 +0000 #comment-31 I have a complicated story, but like most, I have a father, however he left to guam when I was 3 years old, and all I got was a visit once a year and a seldom phone call. My father split to guam leaving my older half brother and half sister without a father, and for the most part leaving me and my 3 younger siblings without a father. All he left us with was money for bills and a college fund. He didn't even give me a chance to see my older half brother, past 3 years old and my older half sister I didnt even know about til I was a lil bit older. When he was here, I was a happier kid, but when he left the pictures showed me frowning most of the time. My mother would lash out on me and tell me she wished I was never born, and give constant praise to my sister younger by one year. I grew up hating everyone in my life except for my older half brother on my moms side, and my little brother and sister that came after the sister younger by 1 year. When we moved to new jersey from brooklyn my self esteem was lower because I lost all the friends I already had, and the only male authority in my left, my older half brother, joined the navy. I was always an angry child, and no one ever tried to talk to me. The suburbs, was not a good move for me, because everyone always seperates themselves and are, in my opinion, pretty racist. I couldn't be in any group because i was multiracial, but in brooklyn the caribbeans accepted me for being me, because I am caribbean. I never really had a girlfriend, because I didn't know how to talk to the people out there, and I also didn't really have a male figure telling me it was possible. All I can say is, I never want to be like my father. He calls me and at one point wanted me to go into the medical field because hes a doctor and my mom a nurse, but i never wanted to live the life he did, never seeing family, never taking time away from work. Now I vow that I will never leave any kid unfathered, and I vow to make millions just so that I can go out there and help all those fatherless children, here in America. I don't want anyone to feel what I feel, I want everyone to know, that there is somewhere out there, willing to listen, there is a father out there for anyone who has been abandoned, I am willing to help, because right now, I am helping my younger brother and sister, at 22 years old. I don't want them to feel what I felt, having no one to go to that will listen and teach I have a complicated story, but like most, I have a father, however he left to guam when I was 3 years old, and all I got was a visit once a year and a seldom phone call. My father split to guam leaving my older half brother and half sister without a father, and for the most part leaving me and my 3 younger siblings without a father. All he left us with was money for bills and a college fund. He didn’t even give me a chance to see my older half brother, past 3 years old and my older half sister I didnt even know about til I was a lil bit older. When he was here, I was a happier kid, but when he left the pictures showed me frowning most of the time. My mother would lash out on me and tell me she wished I was never born, and give constant praise to my sister younger by one year. I grew up hating everyone in my life except for my older half brother on my moms side, and my little brother and sister that came after the sister younger by 1 year. When we moved to new jersey from brooklyn my self esteem was lower because I lost all the friends I already had, and the only male authority in my left, my older half brother, joined the navy. I was always an angry child, and no one ever tried to talk to me. The suburbs, was not a good move for me, because everyone always seperates themselves and are, in my opinion, pretty racist. I couldn’t be in any group because i was multiracial, but in brooklyn the caribbeans accepted me for being me, because I am caribbean. I never really had a girlfriend, because I didn’t know how to talk to the people out there, and I also didn’t really have a male figure telling me it was possible. All I can say is, I never want to be like my father. He calls me and at one point wanted me to go into the medical field because hes a doctor and my mom a nurse, but i never wanted to live the life he did, never seeing family, never taking time away from work. Now I vow that I will never leave any kid unfathered, and I vow to make millions just so that I can go out there and help all those fatherless children, here in America. I don’t want anyone to feel what I feel, I want everyone to know, that there is somewhere out there, willing to listen, there is a father out there for anyone who has been abandoned, I am willing to help, because right now, I am helping my younger brother and sister, at 22 years old. I don’t want them to feel what I felt, having no one to go to that will listen and teach

]]> Comment on What is Lonely Boy? by lupe http://sonswithoutfathers.wordpress.com/2008/06/09/what-is-lonely-boy/#comment-27 lupe Fri, 19 Jun 2009 02:30:31 +0000 #comment-27 i have a short story lookig to get published. My character in the short story can very much so relate to lonely boy. if you have any interested publishers give a holer. i have a short story lookig to get published. My character in the short story can very much so relate to lonely boy. if you have any interested publishers give a holer.

]]> Comment on Send stories by Jim Carey http://sonswithoutfathers.wordpress.com/send-stories/#comment-14 Jim Carey Mon, 27 Oct 2008 07:18:39 +0000 http://sonswithoutfathers.wordpress.com/?page_id=6#comment-14 You appear to provide a forum for a hugely unrecognized and important topic in our society. However, your website provides no practical purpose for "sons without fathers" except to exploit our stories and sell books. There is absolutely no content or room for engagement of the topic. I am a son without a father, because my father is a coward. Sons without fathers who have died are another bread basket. I know several friends in the same boat as myself. I would guess most of us are the same. Why would we care about a rich kid like Anderson Cooper, born into wealth and no matter the career path he chose, would always be taken care of? "Lonely Boys", are low - middle class sons, at least the ones who need the the most help and understanding. Rich kids without fathers can fall back on money. The rest of can't. Maybe your book is intended for a Kennedy's secret child that will have trouble having how to spend his trust funds, and why he's not publicly recognized? Maybe you don't think the rest of us read books? I apologize for my tone, but having spent hours researching and seeking understanding on the internet, I am really disappointed. JC You appear to provide a forum for a hugely unrecognized and important topic in our society. However, your website provides no practical purpose for “sons without fathers” except to exploit our stories and sell books. There is absolutely no content or room for engagement of the topic.

I am a son without a father, because my father is a coward. Sons without fathers who have died are another bread basket. I know several friends in the same boat as myself. I would guess most of us are the same. Why would we care about a rich kid like Anderson Cooper, born into wealth and no matter the career path he chose, would always be taken care of?

“Lonely Boys”, are low – middle class sons, at least the ones who need the the most help and understanding. Rich kids without fathers can fall back on money. The rest of can’t.

Maybe your book is intended for a Kennedy’s secret child that will have trouble having how to spend his trust funds, and why he’s not publicly recognized?

Maybe you don’t think the rest of us read books?

I apologize for my tone, but having spent hours researching and seeking understanding on the internet, I am really disappointed.

JC

]]> Comment on What is Lonely Boy? by joel mendez http://sonswithoutfathers.wordpress.com/2008/06/09/what-is-lonely-boy/#comment-11 joel mendez Sun, 21 Sep 2008 03:40:05 +0000 #comment-11 My mom and dad split up when I was twelve, my little brother was seven. My mom brought us back to the US from PR, and I found myself being my little brother's dad. His friends became like little sons to me, I taught them what I learned in my books, and from listening to adults talk. I've been a mentor to lots of young men over the years, and I don't know how much of the role I actually assumed, or how much of it was assumed by the people I've known. I know I've helped many, sometimes in small ways, sometimes in bigger ways, but I've always wondered if I'd make a good actual dad. I've decided not to father children, principally because I fear having to leave my son or daughter. I don't know how much of my own dad is in me. I never went to a baseball game with dad, although he promised. I taught myself to tie a tie, I learned about girls from books, and from talking to them like people, instead of objects. I am still looking for a dad I suppose, since my reactions to older males are usually deferential. I'm 35, and haven't seen my dad since he left us, but every now and again I think of finding him, if he's still alive. But I can't yet. Like Anderson Cooper, I often wonder if my life is what it was supposed to be; I wonder about how different it would be if my dad had stayed. Or if he called. But even then, I expected not to see him again. I'm one of fifteen, and the only one I know is my younger brother. He's abandoned them all, I've only met a few, and I don't keep in touch, except with my younger brother. I guess I've got lots more to write on the subject (I'm a writer by education and vocation). I think I'll take a page from your rule book.... JM My mom and dad split up when I was twelve, my little brother was seven. My mom brought us back to the US from PR, and I found myself being my little brother’s dad. His friends became like little sons to me, I taught them what I learned in my books, and from listening to adults talk. I’ve been a mentor to lots of young men over the years, and I don’t know how much of the role I actually assumed, or how much of it was assumed by the people I’ve known. I know I’ve helped many, sometimes in small ways, sometimes in bigger ways, but I’ve always wondered if I’d make a good actual dad. I’ve decided not to father children, principally because I fear having to leave my son or daughter. I don’t know how much of my own dad is in me.

I never went to a baseball game with dad, although he promised. I taught myself to tie a tie, I learned about girls from books, and from talking to them like people, instead of objects. I am still looking for a dad I suppose, since my reactions to older males are usually deferential.

I’m 35, and haven’t seen my dad since he left us, but every now and again I think of finding him, if he’s still alive. But I can’t yet. Like Anderson Cooper, I often wonder if my life is what it was supposed to be; I wonder about how different it would be if my dad had stayed. Or if he called. But even then, I expected not to see him again. I’m one of fifteen, and the only one I know is my younger brother. He’s abandoned them all, I’ve only met a few, and I don’t keep in touch, except with my younger brother. I guess I’ve got lots more to write on the subject (I’m a writer by education and vocation). I think I’ll take a page from your rule book….

JM

]]> Comment on Carla Maria Lucchetta by Ed http://sonswithoutfathers.wordpress.com/about/#comment-3 Ed Fri, 13 Jun 2008 17:39:33 +0000 #comment-3 Great idea... though you're right, it's a little strange to see a woman writing a book about father/son relationships. Anyway, I'm 30 and my own father is still alive, although his health is deteriorating as he has Parkinson's disease. My dad and I bonded when I was a child, but after my parents split when I was a teen, he became much more distant and I struggled without a male role model. I never talked about anything too personal with him. However, this changed in the past year after I separated. My dad and I now talk regularly and I have often shed tears of joy about his new presence. I tried to convince myself over the years that I didn't need a dad to get through life. Now, I can't imagine living without him. Great idea… though you’re right, it’s a little strange to see a woman writing a book about father/son relationships.

Anyway, I’m 30 and my own father is still alive, although his health is deteriorating as he has Parkinson’s disease.

My dad and I bonded when I was a child, but after my parents split when I was a teen, he became much more distant and I struggled without a male role model. I never talked about anything too personal with him. However, this changed in the past year after I separated. My dad and I now talk regularly and I have often shed tears of joy about his new presence.

I tried to convince myself over the years that I didn’t need a dad to get through life. Now, I can’t imagine living without him.

]]> Comment on What is Lonely Boy? by C. http://sonswithoutfathers.wordpress.com/2008/06/09/what-is-lonely-boy/#comment-2 C. Fri, 13 Jun 2008 16:46:29 +0000 #comment-2 This is very true. I look forward to hearing about the progress of your project. It is indeed very relevant to all of us, man or woman. This is very true. I look forward to hearing about the progress of your project. It is indeed very relevant to all of us, man or woman.

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